Are You Drawing a Blueprint for Success or for Disappointment?
A determined house wife loses over 100 pounds and keeps it off, a thirty year marriage falls apart and ends up in a bitter divorce, an aspiring entrepreneur’s business explodes past the one hundred thousand dollar a year mark. These are the stories of people who have achieved results which were specifically determined by a “blueprint” that they created. Like the people in these examples, we all have our own blueprint which is perfectly aligned to propel us either towards blistering disappointment or deep fulfillment and success. This blueprint is the collective sum of our habits…
You may have heard that first you form your habits and then your habits form your life. Just think about all of the events of your life, the things which you have and the things which you don’t have: your relationships, your income, your career, the state of your physical health and even your own personal growth and education. All of these are the net result of the habits which you have developed over your lifetime. If you want to change any of these results, you must change your habits.
What is a Habit?
According to Dr. Steven Covey the best-selling author of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” a habit is the union of knowledge, skill and motivation. Knowledge speaks of the information which is required to engage in a habit such as the habit of eating healthy foods. However, you must also have the skills to make healthy eating a part of your lifestyle in order to develop it into a habit. Finally, you must be motivated in some way to engage in an activity long enough for it to become a habit. Once all three of these principles work together for a long enough period of time, a habit becomes a part of your lifestyle and your character.
Breaking Old Habits
The key to breaking your old habits is identifying the motivational dimension of your bad habits. After all, if those habits were not motivated by the desire to fulfill a physical or emotional need, they would have never become habits. By identifying the need which is driving your habits you will empower yourself to find a new and positive habit which fills the same need. This will make it easier to let go of the old habit and to replace it with a new and empowering habit. It is also important to remember that breaking an old habit requires a lot of initial work. However, after about 21 to 40 days it will become easier to resist the temptation to fall back into your old patterns.
Developing New Habits
When developing new habits, it’s important to consider the three areas of knowledge, skills and motivation. However, instead of having to form a new habit at the same time as learning new skills and gaining new knowledge, begin using the knowledge and skills that you already have. For example, here is a list of habits which you can begin to implement today in each of the eight areas of your life:
- Relationships: become a better listener.
- Recreation: find an exciting hobby to do during your recreational time
- Finances: start keeping written records of your income and your spending
- Career and Purpose: develop the habit of doing more than you are paid for
- Environment: make it a point to organize at least one thing a day in your home or office
- Spiritual Life: give thanks for at least three things before you get up and before you go to bed
- Personal Growth and Education: read one personal growth book every month, you can even start with a page a day
Just imagine where these seemingly minor changes in your blueprint will bring you in the next year, or five years or even ten. Surely, your habits have the power to change your results and your life.
Start working at each one of these simple habits and creating a blueprint for greater success and fulfillment in your life. They may sound simple, but there is no point in gathering new skills or information until you are using what you already have. If you do this, you will find that the new skills and knowledge which you do eventually acquire will be much more valuable because they are getting you solid results.
Where are your habits leading you today?
John and Linda Ballis
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